I have always been a "people pleaser", I like to try and keep the piece and I often refer to myself as a chameleon. I have this way of changing a little part of me to blend with the people I'm around so I feel more comfortable. Problem with this is I begin to feel like I need validation, I need verbal confirmation with things.
I know this about myself and it can be a struggle to remind myself that I am enough and that being me is the best person I can be. This validation can also turn into needing thanks everytime I do something.
It is nice to receive recognition for doing things but over the past couple of weeks while I've been working on changing aspects of my life to improve my mental and physical health, I began to loose the reason why I had started to change. I began to need validation from other people. I needed people to tell me I was doing a good job. This isn't the case though, I don't need to rely on people to tell me how well I'm doing, see the validation needs to come from me.
I need to value myself. I clean the house for me, I go to the gym for me. I parent the way I parent because to me, it's the best way I can. These things are the things I value, a clean house, a healthy body, a clear mind, and kind hearted children.
Sometimes we just need to remind ourselves that it's okay to be us and to value ourselves.
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